It is because these important needs and resources are incorporated into our very biology that they became known as human ‘givens’ – if these innate needs aren’t being met well enough in our lives we are vulnerable to mental health and behavioural problems.
Our 9 essential emotional needs are:
Security — safe territory and an environment which allows us to develop fully
Attention (to give and receive it) — a form of nutrition
Sense of autonomy and control — having volition to make responsible choices
Feeling part of a wider community
Emotional intimacy — to know that at least one other person accepts us totally for who we are, “warts ‘n’ all”
Privacy — opportunity to reflect and consolidate experience
Sense of status within social groupings
Sense of competence and achievement
Meaning and purpose — which come from being stretched in what we do and think.
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